Raise your hand if you’ve never experienced the fateful anxiety of a first date. Who among you has never experienced that feeling of total uncertainty, bordering on panic?
Suddenly you become unable to choose anything and your mind gets lost in a thousand fears: what am I wearing? How do I wear makeup? What do I say? Will I be clumsy? And so, ultimately: what will he think of me? Because then this is what interests us, if it is true that the first impression is the fundamental one, the one on the basis of which it will be decided whether there will be a second appointment and then a third and so on.
Well, if all these thoughts have also been yours, at least once, or if even better you find yourself right now planning your first date with a man, take a look at these golden rules, which will help you better face the decisive meeting.
Dress
The first fundamental question is: what am I wearing? Much depends, of course, on the place and type of appointment, i.e. whether it is an aperitif, an elegant dinner or a simple coffee in the afternoon. In any case, however, the rule of a “studied simplicity” applies: there is nothing worse than looking like a diva ready for a show on the red carpet; What you have to focus on is the enhancement of your strong points, so yes to a neckline if you can show off a nice décolleté, while a short skirt will be fine if you have legs to show off.
However, avoid combining these two elements: presenting yourself very low-cut and with a vertiginous mini would offer an excessive image of you! For shoes, choose according to your habits: if you are not able to walk in high heels… Avoid challenging yourself on this occasion.
What if you go to the appointment directly from the office, without going home first? Think about taking with you what you need to cool off in the morning.
What to talk about
Here you are: a greeting and you find yourself sitting at the table. What topics should be addressed in the conversation? Also in this case the advice is: be yourself, as simple and spontaneous as possible. Avoid talking about the crisis of the world economy, to give yourself an intellectual touch, or do not tell about your friend’s latest sentimental adventures. The man you’re dating wants to know you, your history, your interests, so try, as much as you can, to tell your story. An absolutely banned topic is your sentimental past, your past relationships: showing that you are still suffering for a finished story, certainly does not dispose well of those who wanted to meet you, perhaps just to start a relationship with you.
Another key point: sincerity. This is the fundamental prerequisite for establishing a good relationship with a person, so no stories about your villa with pool on the Côte d’Azur, if you generally go to the beach in the summer bringing your umbrella from home! Don’t try to present yourself younger than you really are, or take over the independent women’s area, if you still live with dad and mom! Sooner or later the truth would come out… with a guaranteed embarrassment!
Cellular
A curse and a delight of our times, the mobile phone is not welcome on a first date with a man. If your cell phone rings while you’re with him, answer it to prevent the caller from going on forever, but end the conversation briefly by promising the other party that you’ll call back later or the next day.
Alcohol
Letting them take you home in your arms because you’ve had a good hangover and can’t stand up, is not the best way to catch a man’s attention! So drink in moderation, accompanying the wine with the food and refuse if he continues to fill your glass, but you don’t feel like it anymore… Very shiny!
Account
Dinner is over, it’s time to pay. Who has to put their hands in their wallets? It is a gesture of gallantry on the part of the man to offer dinner; However, it is not unseemly if the woman chooses to settle the bill for both of them: the important thing is, even in this case, that it is a gesture made naturally, spontaneously, not dictated by the fact that he does not show signs of paying or that he even pretends to have forgotten the money at home. On the other hand, the choice to pay “the Roman way” is definitely to be avoided: you are not a group of friends!
That said… Now it’s your turn! Live this experience and just think about having a pleasant meeting, after all… if they are roses, they will bloom! Do you have a particular memory of a first date? Has that man become your husband, or has he decided not to see you anymore, or did you discard him? Tell us about your experience.