Be careful what you write in messages! The words that make up your message may reveal deeper meanings than you think.
According to some Californian scientists, when women are happy with their relationship, they write in the first person. So, if your girlfriend often types the word “I” in the messages she sends you, rest assured, she is not self-centered but just very happy.
The researchers examined 70 couples, focusing on the messages and analyzing the participants aged about 19 for ten days. Six months later, about 60 percent of couples were still together, while the rest had broken up.
The researchers read all the conversations and found that the couples who most often use words with positive meanings, such as “great,” “happy,” and “love,” are the same ones who manage to keep the relationship going while the others fall apart after a few months.
Women
As for women, those who use the word “I” are 30% more stable and in love than those who use the “we.” According to the researchers, it depends on the fact that they are self-confident girls, who find in the other a friend to vent to and not just a boyfriend.
Women, the expert continues, generally tend to be more expressive from an emotional point of view and when they manage to open up fully they are also happier as a couple.
The data collected also shows that women who use words, classified by the researchers as “positive negatives”, for example the expression “not happy”, are not satisfied with themselves and with the story with their boyfriend.
Men
As for men, they are more likely to resort to sarcasm. On the other hand, the use of words that refer to negative emotions, such as “anger”, would almost never be related or correlated with the degree of love stability.
But is it the words that make a relationship stronger, or is it the relationship itself that inspires them? To what extent is our language a representation of our universe?
Perhaps this is an answer that is best not expected from researchers but from oneself and one’s partner. With one eye always on the mobile phone.